When a marriage isn’t working, many couples make the agonizing decision to divorce. While divorce may legally resolve the issues that couples have been grappling with as a whole, it often leaves behind residual issues of getting on with one’s life in the absence of a partner. This in turn brings a new set of emotions and challenges that must be dealt with.
The emotional turmoil during and after a divorce can be debilitating and have long-lasting effects. That said, for some divorce-related stress is preferable to life-long unhappiness in an unhealthy marriage. No matter the reason for the divorce or its emotional impact, it is a difficult experience for all involved. A few of the most common feelings that divorcing couples experience include:
Stress and Worry. Stress and worry often arise concerning the legal process, finances, and adjustments to new routines or living situations.
Grief and Sadness. Grief is not only relevant to the death of a loved one but also for the loss associated with a way of life and/or with having to sever ties with shared family members and friends. It can be an extremely sad and alienating experience.
Guilt. Many parents experience feelings of guilt and are emotionally overwhelmed when they think about how their divorce will affect their children and their lives ahead.
Couples and families seek counseling for varying reasons throughout the process of divorce, whether for help making the final decision or for transitioning into a new life after the fact. A counselor can help divorcing couples and families work through many conflicting feelings and the myriad of changes ahead.
Getting help is not a sign of weakness. Rather, it is a sign of strength. Divorce can be an emotional rollercoaster ride for many couples. A counselor can help recommend strategies for coping that bring relief during a difficult emotional time.
